Dating and relationships are far from precise entities and as best that I can remember, none of us took courses in school to increase our skill and knowledge levels in these areas. So, why is it after repeated mistakes, failures and embarrassments, we are still resistant to seeking help that might increase our likelihood of success? I know women who can cook, but still take cooking classes. I know men who play golf who still take guidance on their swing. They're learning!

What are all those women doing with makeup artists at cosmetics counters? And, how many of us have been taught how to be better stock pickers or investors? We are taught things all of the time, but when it comes to love and relationships, too few seek out worthy counselors who might aid them. People have no problem learning how to hit a backhand, but when it comes to learning how to be a better dater, too many seem reticent to admit that they could use outside help.

Is it a pride thing? Is seeking help in this area a statement that one is a failure, but learning a second language, how to shoot better pictures, paint sunsets, or downhill ski, doesn't illicit such an emotion? It is often the mark of maturity, wisdom, and perhaps self-awareness to know one's limitations. This is especially true when dating after divorce or dating over 40. We can't all be experts on every subject. I have over 50 writers contributing to my site.

And, if we are not dealing with certain subjects regularly, the task is even more difficult. That's why a fresh approach, a different set of eyes, and an objective perspective may be just what you need to find success in the boomer dating game. If you are dating over 40 and are truly committed to finding a relationship, I highly suggest you consider getting a coach's help. There are hundreds of coaches in this field all over the country. Interview her and ask questions.